April 19, 2020. Ephesians 4:25-27

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TONGUE and TEMPERAMENT. EPHESIANS. 4:25-27. 4/19/2020. #18.

Ephesians 4:25-27 [New King James Version (NKJV)]

25 Therefore, putting away lying, “Let each one of you speak truth with his neighbor,” for we are members of one another. 26 “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, 27 nor give place to the devil.

  • Head, heart, and honesty
    • Paul answers the question, “What does putting off the old man and putting on the new man look like?” (Ephesians 4:22-24)
      • From Ephesians 4:25-5:33 Paul deals with how a spiritual believer acts (the largest portion deals with Christian husbands)
      • Luke 3 John the Baptist told audience what is entailed with repenting of one’s sins
    • Paul begins with honesty, the foundation of all relationships
    • “Put away lying” lit. is “put off falsehood (pseudo)”
      • More than just telling the truth
      • Notice “putting away” = stop doing what you are doing
      • Falsehood comes in many forms:
        • To cover wrongdoing
        • To hide motivations
        • Deceiving to obtain a desired selfish goal
        • To withhold important necessary information
    • To be an honest person, true to highest moral principles
    • Speak truth to neighbor (unlike versus 15, “speak” is in this passage)
      • Literally, “speak truth with your neighbor” (honest dealings)
      • Different use of neighbor than in Luke 10 (Good Samaritan)–refers to fellow believers in this context
    • We are members one to another
      • If we lie to fellow believers we lie to ourselves
      • Same concept as marriage (Ephesians 5:29-33 to be one flesh is to treat spouse as self)
    • Familial = to care for one another as a family
  • A tempered temper
    • One can’t tell your spouse that the Bible commands you to be angry
      • The entire context = be angry, but do not sin
      • A direct quote from Psalm 4:4 (Be angry, and do not sin / Meditate within your heart on your bed, and be still.)
    • Anger is a natural emotion, at times unavoidable
      • God expressed anger against Israel in the Wilderness
      • Tension between Paul and Barnabas
      • Saul was angry against David
      • Jonah 4:1-11 – Jonah was angry that God refused to destroy Nineveh, but allowed his shadow gourd to die
    • Anger is a necessary emotion (vexation against adversity)
      • Anger is a reaction to tension or irritation
      • Three primary emotions: love, fear, and anger
      • Necessary anger: Moses exacting punishment at the Golden Calf fiasco; Jesus driving out the money changers
    • Selfish anger is sin
      • Genesis 4, Cain killing Abel
      • Saul killing the high priests
      • Jezebel threatening Elijah
    • Do not sin
      • Anger is not the sin; but a wrong response to it is sin
      • Anger calls for action (response, restraint, reflection)
      • James 1:19-20 a faith-based response furthers God’s will
      • Intent: be angry but do not sin
  • Response in the sunshine
    • Anger needs to be dealt with promptly, so it does not fester
      • Should be dealt with quickly
      • Reconcile, rebuke, or turn it over to the Lord
    • Festering anger gives Satan an opportunity to use you to sin
      • Bitterness of soul leads to destruction (Cain)
      • Loss of perspective (Jonah)
    • Some anger must be dealt with before the throne alone
      • Romans 12:18 some people will not reconcile with you
      • Some violations leave deep scars (raping of Tamar)
      • Some irritations are ongoing (Peninnah mocking Hannah)

Key Verse:

Jonah 4 [New King James Version (NKJV)]

1 But it displeased Jonah exceedingly, and he became angry. 2 So he prayed to the Lord, and said, “Ah, Lord, was not this what I said when I was still in my country? Therefore I fled previously to Tarshish; for I know that You are a gracious and merciful God, slow to anger and abundant in lovingkindness, One who relents from doing harm. 3 Therefore now, O Lord, please take my life from me, for it is better for me to die than to live!” 4 Then the Lord said, “Is it right for you to be angry?” 5 So Jonah went out of the city and sat on the east side of the city. There he made himself a shelter and sat under it in the shade, till he might see what would become of the city. 6 And the Lord God prepared a plant and made it come up over Jonah, that it might be shade for his head to deliver him from his misery. So Jonah was very grateful for the plant. 7 But as morning dawned the next day God prepared a worm, and it so damaged the plant that it withered. 8 And it happened, when the sun arose, that God prepared a vehement east wind; and the sun beat on Jonah’s head, so that he grew faint. Then he wished death for himself, and said, “It is better for me to die than to live.” 9 Then God said to Jonah, “Is it right for you to be angry about the plant?” And he said, “It is right for me to be angry, even to death!” 10 But the Lord said, “You have had pity on the plant for which you have not labored, nor made it grow, which came up in a night and perished in a night. 11 And should I not pity Nineveh, that great city, in which are more than one hundred and twenty thousand persons who cannot discern between their right hand and their left—and much livestock?”